World of Blue

There will be people in life that tell you “Oh, it gets easier with time.” That is true in some cases, but on the other hand, grief can hit you like a ton of bricks 20 years after the loss. Healing is not linear. Grief does not follow a specific timeline. You can be perfectly fine for 2 years straight, then on a random Tuesday 3 years later, you can smell someone cooking a certain recipe that sends you into a memory that strikes grief anew into your heart.

Grief doesn’t just occur when a loved one dies. You can grieve a lost romantic relationship, a friendship, a dream of what you hoped life would look like. These situations can all cause denial, anger, sadness, and other emotions that are tied directly to grief.

I have had the honor of being present when people breathed their last breath on this earth. People who were very precious to me. I have also had the privilege of seeing the heartbeat of two babies growing inside me and later stopped. I have known the hurt of losing close friends at an early age, because we all had cancer. I survived and they did not.

All of this to say, if you are experiencing any type of grief, you are not alone. There are others out there experiencing similar pain. It does not get easier with time in every situation. However, if you can seek out help and build your support system, grief can become more bearable.

Until next time – be kind to yourself.